We all want to be happy! Ultimately, we all want to be happy. That's what we're all after!
And that's the problem. We're chasing after happiness. Instead of inviting happy in, accepting it in like a treasured friend.
It's always me - here. Happy - there. Something to achieve. Something to deserve. Something has to happen first:
If (x) happens, then ... I'll be happy. When (y) happens, then ... I'll be happy!
I'm trading my happen-ings for my happiness!