Ultimately, what we're feeling is our own thinking and interpretations about the event, not the event itself. We feel our thinking!! We experience our own inner-actions: our own machinations, imagination, inspiration, and reactions, not the external event.
It's the inner choice to Rise Up (or not) that sends us up or down.
Each morning is a wake-up call to rise "up". Every challenge can be used as a springboard to rise up higher still. From this elevated state, everything goes better.